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November 24, 2024

This week I am grateful for…

236. Raindrops While Sleeping

237. Leaving work Early

238. Endings and New Beginnings

239. A surprise Album Release

240. An Unexpected Encounter with a Deer

#236: Raindrops While Sleeping

The Northeast USA has been experiencing drought, with many wildfires and ponds and lakes shrinking. But this week brought a gift we’ve all been waiting for: rain. The last few days have been marked by steady showers, and last night, it rained through the night. The gentle tapping of raindrops on the windows and roof created a peaceful melody, a backdrop for the best sleep imaginable under warm, soft blankets. It felt like nature’s lullaby.

#237: Leaving Work Early

One of the best perks of my job? The flexibility to leave early when my weekly hours are met. This week, I finished my tasks ahead of schedule and left work guilt-free, knowing everything was taken care of. There’s nothing quite like stepping out into the afternoon, with extra time to savor the day and the satisfaction of a job well done.

#238: Endings and New Beginnings

This week marked the end of my 8-week Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) course. Saying goodbye to such a compassionate and insightful community was bittersweet. Over the weeks, we shared courageous moments, insightful wisdom, and transformative growth. While parting ways was difficult, I left feeling inspired, carrying the tools and motivation to continue this mindful journey. Endings, I continue to learn, often pave the way for profound new beginnings.

#239: A Surprise Album Release

Waking up to the news of a surprise album release from a favorite artist? Pure joy. This week, not one but two of my favorite artists, J. Cole and Kendrick Lamar, dropped new projects. It’s the kind of surprise that turns ordinary errands into mini road trips, with the car’s speakers providing a concert experience. These albums are the perfect soundtrack for life on the go—and I’ve been finding every excuse to hit the road just to soak them in.

#240: An Unexpected Encounter with a Deer

While walking through a local wildlife sanctuary with my girlfriend, she suddenly exclaimed, “Ohh look!” My heart skipped a beat—I was sure she had spotted a snake. (Quick side note: I wouldn’t say I’m afraid of snakes, but let’s just say I respect them, a lot… from a distance.) Instead, to our left stood a deer with antlers that seemed seasoned. He was completely unbothered by us, strolling across the path with a quiet confidence. It was a moment of awe and connection with nature. See the photo above.

Weekly Spotlight

This week’s spotlight is an inspiring quote:

I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.

–-Michael Jordan

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August 25, 2024

This week I am grateful for…

166. Silence

167. Community

168. Awe moment 1

169. Awe moment 2

170. Nature


#166: Silence

Two weeks ago, I embarked on a five-day silent retreat at Karme Choling Meditation Retreat Center in Barnet,Vermont. I’m eager to share the profound gratitude I experienced during that time. It was my first silent retreat—a journey where I spent five days in silence, meditating for eight hours each day.

The first thing I am deeply grateful for is the silence itself. It’s astonishing how much you learn about yourself, your thoughts, your surroundings, and even other people when you choose to be silent. The retreat allowed me to observe my thoughts and emotions in real-time, without the usual distractions. Over those five days, I began to notice patterns in my thinking. I became aware of where my mind tends to wander, and I was able to evaluate whether those thoughts were serving me. If they weren’t, I felt empowered to gently let them go.

There were moments when the urge to speak was almost overwhelming, especially when I was in the company of others in a casual setting. Yet, I discovered the power of non-verbal communication—how much connection can be achieved through simple gestures and body language. In short, the silence was transformative. It’s incredible how much you can notice about yourself and the world around you when you embrace silence. I would highly recommend a silence retreat for anyone seeking peace, joy, and personal insight.

#167: Community

The retreat wouldn’t have been as meaningful without the incredible community that surrounded me. The teachers were knowledgeable and truly inspiring, guiding us with wisdom and compassion. My fellow participants were supportive and kind, adding layers of richness to the experience. I’m deeply grateful for each and every one of them, as they made the retreat not just rewarding, but deeply meaningful and unforgettable.

#168: Awe Moment 1

During the retreat, I experienced two moments of intense awe and gratitude. The first occurred on the third day during a walking meditation. We strolled through a garden bursting with vibrant flowers. After three days of silence and eight hours of daily meditation, I found myself in a state of profound peace, fully present in the moment. As I knelt down to smell two different flowers, I was struck by the beauty around me—the bright colors, the fresh scents, and the sight of tomatoes ripening from dark green to bright red. My heart swelled with gratitude for the Earth and its endless gifts. A tear slipped down my cheek, and for about ten minutes, I was enveloped in an overwhelming sense of gratitude—a feeling that stayed with me for the rest of the retreat.

#169: Awe Moment 2

The second awe-inspiring moment happened later that evening. It had been raining on and off throughout the day, with a hurricane passing nearby. During our last meditation session at 7 PM, the rain was pouring down. But as the session ended at 7:30, the rain stopped. A fellow participant gestured that there was something beautiful outside, and I rushed out, thinking I might catch a glimpse of a rainbow. Instead, I was greeted by a breathtaking sight—the moon, enormous and radiant, peeking through fast-moving clouds at dusk.

Drawn by the beauty, I walked down to a stream that passes close by. The power and sound of the water was humbling. As I looked up hill, I saw tall grass swaying gently in the wind, and the moon glowing brightly as the clouds danced across the sky. I was filled with an intense sense of awe, gratitude, and pure joy. The birds were singing their final songs before nightfall, and in that moment, I felt incredibly fortunate to be alive, witnessing such natural beauty.

#170: Nature

This retreat reminded me of just how breathtaking nature can be, especially when observed in silence. The retreat was nestled amidst mountains, their slopes lush with a variety of green trees. I noticed the vivid colors of birds and their sweet songs, the intricate patterns of rocks, and the dance of butterflies. Throughout the week, I encountered deer, a groundhog, and even fish in the stream.

On the last night, a meteor shower lit up the sky. I woke in the middle of the night to marvel at the stars, and in remote Vermont, it was undimmed by light pollution. At 4 AM, I joined two other participants to watch the sunrise, a moment of serene beauty that filled me with joy. For all these experiences, I am profoundly grateful.

What are you grateful for this week?

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March 12, 2024

This week I am grateful for…

51. Local Diner

52. Best Friend

53. The 100 TV Series

54. MBSR

55. Delicious Strawberries


#51: Local Diner

There’s something magical about stumbling upon a hidden gem in your own neighborhood, isn’t there? This week, my best friend and I found ourselves basking in the warmth of a local diner, and let me tell you, it was a delightful experience.

From the moment we stepped in, the aroma of homemade soup welcomed us, instantly setting the tone for a great evening. What struck me the most was the genuine friendliness by everyone there. It felt like stepping into a welcoming summer oasis, a place where worries melt away and good vibes flourish. And the food? Oh, it was a symphony of flavors, all at a reasonable price. With each bite, it felt like a tastebud adventure, and I found myself already planning my next visit.

#52: Best Friend

But of course, what’s a memorable experience without your best friend by your side? Their presence added an extra layer of joy to the evening, turning it into an unforgettable memory. It’s moments like these that remind me of the importance of cherished friendships and the simple joys they bring. Thank you for a wonderful time!

#53: MBSR

On Mondays I attend the Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) sessions offered by the University of Massachusetts Medical School. These sessions have become a lifeline, offering a sanctuary where I can unwind and center myself. The transformative power of mindfulness cannot be overstated, and I’m immensely thankful for the peace it brings to my life.

#54: The 100 TV Series

I recently started watching the show “The 100” on Netflix. While the acting may not be Oscar-worthy and the plot a little predictable at times, there’s an undeniable allure to the storyline. It’s one of those guilty pleasures that keeps you hooked despite its flaws, and for that, I’m grateful.

#55: Delicious Strawberries

Did you know that strawberries are not widely grown in Kenya? In fact? I did not eat my first strawberry till I moved to the United States. Strawberries can be a hit or miss for me. But this week I ate some really delicious strawberries from Trader Joe’s. I am very grateful for delicious strawberries.

What are you grateful for this week? Feel free to leave me a comment.

See you next week…

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November 17, 2024

This week I am grateful for…

231. Brunch at a Local Diner

232. The comfort of a heated room

233. Spotting an Owl

234. The Convenience of a Laundry Machine

235. The Crunch of Fall Leaves


#231: Brunch at a Local Diner

My partner and I are moving in December from the apartment complex we’ve lived in for 2 years in Natick, MA. One thing I’ll miss the most is the local restaurants and diners we’ve grown to love.

This week, after a tough workout at the gym, we went to one of our favorite diners for brunch. As we ate, we realized it might be the last time we’d eat there before the move. I ordered a veggie omelet with home fries and wheat toast, and we made an effort to savor the moment, even practicing mindful eating by focusing on the taste of the first bite. See the picture of my plate above. It was a simple yet meaningful experience.

#232: The Comfort of a Heated Room

Temperatures are continuing to fall each week with freezing nights and frosty mornings. Stepping into a heated room after being in cold feels magical. It’s like receiving a warm hug from both humanity and technology.

#233: Spotting an Owl

During an evening walk to check on the garden we rented over the summer, we experienced a moment of pure wonder. As I opened the gate, its metallic creak startled a light gray owl, which silently took off, flying deeper into the woods. My partner and I stood there, amazed by the elegance of the moment.

For me, it was extra special—it was my first time seeing an owl in the wild since moving to the States. That fleeting encounter at dusk felt like a gift from nature.

#234: The Convenience of a Laundry Machine

Sometimes, it’s easy to take modern conveniences for granted. This week, I found myself reflecting on how thankful I am for something as simple as a laundry machine.

Growing up in Kenya, doing laundry was a whole-day commitment. With unreliable water supplies, we often fetched water from local streams, taking multiple trips to gather enough water. Then came the handwashing—scrubbing each piece of clothing, rinsing, and hanging them to air-dry. It was labor-intensive and time-consuming. So this week I am thankful for the convenience of a washing machine.

When a friend in Kenya recently told me how transformative a washing machine would be for her life, I nodded with deep understanding. I’ve lived that reality. So this week, as I tossed clothes into the machine and pushed a button, I felt a profound sense of gratitude.

#235: The Crunch of Fall Leaves

The trees have lost their leaves, and the ground is covered with Dry leaves. On my walks, I’ve enjoyed the simple pleasure of stepping on crunchy leaves. It’s a small thing, but it brings back memories of colder seasons and makes me look forward to the upcoming holiday season.

Weekly Spotlight

This week’s spotlight is one of my favorite Ted Talks by Tim Urban on Procrastination. It is funny, thoughtful, and highly Inspirational.

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October 6, 2024

This week I am grateful for…

201. Walk to the Laundry Room

202. Waitress Remembering You

203. Weekends Off

204. Banana Oatmeal Bar

205. Taste


#201: Walk to the Laundry Room

At my apartment complex, the laundry room is a short three-minute walk from my place. When the weather is nice, that brief stroll becomes one of my favorite parts of doing laundry. It’s a simple pleasure—feeling the sun on my face, breathing in the fresh air, and enjoying a few peaceful moments before getting back to my chores.

#202: Waitress Remembering You

This week, my girlfriend and I visited a local sushi spot, and to our surprise, the waitress remembered us and even our usual sushi order. I’m not sure if that’s a good thing or not, but it definitely gave us a good laugh. It was a light-hearted moment, and I was grateful for the shared laughter with my girlfriend and the waitress—it added a fun twist to our evening out.

#203: Weekend Off

One thing I often take for granted is having weekends off. Not everyone has that luxury—my partner, for instance, is a nurse and sometimes has to work weekends. I’ve also had jobs in the past where weekends weren’t always free. But this week, I had the entire weekend to myself, and I’m particularly grateful for the freedom to do whatever I wished. It was a much-needed break, and I didn’t take a single moment of it for granted.

#204: Banana Oatmeal Bars

My girlfriend and I recently discovered an amazing Banana Oatmeal Bar recipe that has quickly become a breakfast staple in our home. The best part? The recipe calls for very ripe bananas, which means we haven’t wasted a single banana since we found it. These bars are not only delicious but also incredibly versatile. You can enjoy them for breakfast, lunch, dinner, or even dessert. This week, I am especially grateful for these tasty treats.

#205: Taste

A few weeks ago, I tested positive for COVID, and along with other symptoms, I lost my sense of taste. I wouldn’t call myself a foodie, but I do enjoy a good meal, so losing that ability was incredibly frustrating. This week, I’m beyond grateful to be able to savor food. It’s amazing how much you can miss something as simple as taste until it’s gone.

What are you grateful for this week?

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October 13, 2024

This week I am grateful for…

206. Breakfast Pancakes

207. Fall Leaves

208. Apple Crisp

209. Red Tailed Hawk

210. Mindfulness Journey


#206: Breakfast Pancakes

This week, my partner and I whipped up some delicious protein pancakes, and let me tell you, they were a hit! We experimented with blueberry, chocolate chip, and plain varieties, all of which came out perfectly. Our favorite way to top these pancakes is with a mix of frozen berries reduced on the stovetop to create fruit syrup drizzled generously over the stack. Of course, we couldn’t resist adding some maple syrup and some whipped cream. Just writing this has my mouth watering all over again! Here’s a photo of our beautiful creation—doesn’t it just look irresistible?

#207: Fall Leaves

Fall is in full swing, and I’m loving every minute of it. The trees in my neighborhood are showing off their vibrant colors—some are still in the midst of changing, while others have already shed most of their leaves, looking like overachievers! The weather has been a perfect mix of cool breezes with the occasional day reaching the 70s, giving me the best of both worlds. I snapped a picture of one of the trees near my apartment this week. Here it is…

Every time I mindfully observe the changing leaves I feel a wave of seasonal bliss wash over me.

#208:Apple Crisp

This week, I made what might just be the best apple crisp of my life. Seriously! I used apples I picked fresh from the orchard last week, and they turned into a sweet, crunchy masterpiece. My girlfriend couldn’t agree more—she was just as enthusiastic about how delicious it turned out. I paired it with vanilla bean ice cream, and the combination was heavenly.

I’ll definitely be making this again soon!

#209: Mindfulness Journey

A few weeks ago, in Week 37, I mentioned enrolling in a Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) course at Brown University. This week, I’m especially grateful for the amazing people in that class. The diversity of knowledge and experiences that has been shared so far has been truly eye-opening. I’m also incredibly thankful for our MBSR instructor, whose wisdom and support have been invaluable on this journey. Stay tuned—there’s more to come on this path mindfulness path.

#210: Red-Tailed Hawk

While outside at work this week, something extraordinary caught my eye. A massive red-tailed hawk came swooping down from a tree, gliding through the air with incredible precision. Unfortunately for the hawk, it missed its target, but the power of its wings sent a flurry of fallen leaves swirling into the air. It then soared back to the tree, but landed so low that one of my brave coworkers managed to get close enough to snap a picture. Here’s the stunning shot she captured—an awe-inspiring moment!

 

Weekly Spotlight

Thanks to the generous feedback I received from family and friends a few weeks ago, I’m excited to introduce this new section in my weekly gratitude posts! Each week, I’ll be highlighting something special—whether it’s a resource, a story, words of wisdom, scientific research on mindfulness, gratitude, and happiness, or even someone else’s gratitude moments. The goal is simple: to educate, inspire, and engage readers.

So, let’s dive in!

This week’s spotlight shines on an inspiring quote from The How of Happiness by the renowned Professor Sonja Lyubomirsky, a trailblazer in the science of happiness:

“[Optimism] is not about providing a recipe for self-deception. The world can be a horrible, cruel place, and at the same time it can be wonderful and abundant. These are both truths. There is not a halfway point; there is only choosing which truth to put in your personal foreground.”
― Sonja Lyubomirsky, The How of Happiness: A Scientific Approach to Getting the Life You Want.

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October 20, 2024

This week I am grateful for…

211. Fall Foliage at a Park

212. Breathtaking Full Moon

213. A Glowing Sunset

214. Apple Oatmeal

215. A Surprisingly Quick Oil Change


#211: Fall Foliage at a Park

This week, my partner and I took a peaceful walk through a park in Central Massachusetts, and the scenery was nothing short of magical. The fall leaves were at their peak, and the vibrant shades of yellow, red, orange, and green painted the landscape like a work of art. I couldn’t stop marveling at the beauty around me! I captured a few photos, but they hardly do justice to the breathtaking view. Here is one.

#212: Breathtaking Full Moon

Driving home one evening just an hour after sunset, I witnessed something that stopped me in my tracks—a massive full moon hovering on the horizon. It was one of the largest and brightest moons I’ve ever seen! As I merged onto the highway, the moon loomed so large in the sky, I let out an instinctive “Woah!” right in the middle of listening to the radio. The sheer size and brilliance of the moon made me feel incredibly small and reminded me of the vastness of the universe. It was a humbling, awe-inspiring moment.

#213: A Glowing Sunset

You know that magical orange glow that happens just before the sun dips below the horizon? I was lucky enough to catch one of those perfect sunsets this week. The clouds lit up with a bright, fiery hue that only lasted a few fleeting minutes, but it was enough to remind me of how stunning nature can be when you pause to appreciate it.

#214: Apple Oatmeal

In my kitchen this week, I’ve been experimenting with apple recipes, and I stumbled upon another winner—apple oatmeal made on the stovetop. Imagine warm oats simmered with brown sugar, cinnamon, ginger, and sliced apples, all topped off with crunchy walnuts. It was pure comfort in a bowl and a perfect fall breakfast. I loved it so much, that I might add it to the breakfast rotation.

#215: A Surprisingly Quick Oil Change

Life has been busy this week, and my car was long overdue for an oil change. On a whim, I stopped by a local express oil change shop, expecting a long wait. To my surprise, there was only one car ahead of me, and I was in and out in 30 minutes! The cherry on top? They threw in a free car wash for choosing their service and even fixed one of my wipers, which had been making an obnoxious sound for weeks. Sometimes, it’s the little things that make the biggest difference.

Weekly Spotlight

This week’s spotlight shines on a moment of gratitude from a family member who commented on a previous post.

It has been somewhat challenging week but one beautiful thing this week was seeing my son swimming, more like learning to swim, with his father in the pool 🏊! Soo grateful to be alive and well to witness that!

What are you grateful for this week?

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October 27, 2024

This week I am grateful for…

216. Mindfulness and Community

217. First Comments on my Blog

218. Fall Festival

219. Spotting Bald Eagles

220. A Lesson in Generosity While Driving


#216: Mindfulness and Community

Over the past month, I’ve been attending an 8-week Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) course at Brown University. It’s been a truly transformative experience. Each week, we dive into deep, meaningful conversations that leave me feeling enriched and connected. Our instructor is so knowledgeable and inspiring, and the community we’ve built in the class is something I’m deeply grateful for. It’s a reminder that growth happens not just in the quiet moments of reflection but in sharing that space with others on a similar journey.

#217: First Comments on My Blog

I started this blog in December 2023 with a simple goal: to create and share content from the heart. Last month, I took the leap and shared it with friends and family, inviting their suggestions and feedback. They had such thoughtful and creative ideas for making it more engaging! I felt so grateful for their support and took their advice to update older posts and refine new ones. And this month, something wonderful happened: I received not one, but three comments on my October 13th post! Your support means the world to me—thank you for being a part of this journey!

#218: Fall Festival Adventures 🍂

Last weekend, my partner and I went to an apple festival at Mount Wachusett in North Central Massachusetts. The weather was picture-perfect: 70 degrees, sunny, and not a cloud in the sky. The festival was buzzing with energy, and since parking was a bit of a walk, we decided to skip the shuttle and walk the ten-minute trail instead. The walk was magical, with breathtaking views of the mountains and vibrant fall foliage. We spotted birds along the way, taking in the crisp air and golden hues.

Some festival highlights? Sipping on warm apple cider, meeting a llama and two delightful alpacas, enjoying a sky ride, and exploring a marketplace filled with unique vendors. Here is one photo I took that does not do the view justice at all…

There’s something special about these moments that remind you of the beauty of this Fall.

#219: A Double Bald Eagle Sighting

Speaking of beauty, I had not one, but two unexpected encounters with bald eagles this week! The first was on our walk to the fall festival. At first, I mistook the eagle for a turkey vulture until I saw its unmistakable white head and tail. I was so excited that I pointed it out to a few nearby people, and we all paused to admire its graceful flight.

Later that day, on the drive home, another eagle crossed our path about 20 minutes from home. I am grateful for nature as it has a way of giving us these fleeting, magical moments that leave a lasting impression.

#220: A Lesson in Generosity While Driving

I had a bit of a revelation this week during my morning commute. I was running late and, as usual, it seemed like the universe was throwing every slow-moving car in my path. When the driver ahead of me stopped at a yellow light we both could have made, frustration almost took over. But instead, I caught myself. I took a few deep breaths and made a choice: compassion over irritation.

What followed was unexpected. The energy of the commute shifted. I even let someone merge in front of me, which felt liberating. And to my delight, that person passed the kindness along by letting another car merge later. My morning turned into something less stressful, and in the end, I was actually on time. Talk about karma!

Weekly Spotlight

This week, I wanted to share a powerful quote from 10% Happier by Dan Harris:

“Make the present moment your friend rather than your enemy. Because many people live habitually as if the present moment were an obstacle that they need to overcome in order to get to the next moment. And imagine living your whole life like that, where always this moment is never quite right, not good enough because you need to get to the next one. That is continuous stress.”

If you are interested in learning how to live in the moment, check out Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction at Umass Memorial or at Brown University.

What are grateful for this week?

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November 3, 2024

This week I am grateful for…

221. Hot Beef Stew on a Cold Day

222. Canceled Meetings

223. Portable Tea Mug

224. Good Excuse for Eating Candy

225. Sunset View After Work


#221: Hot Beef Stew on a Cold Day

After a long, stressful day at work this week, I came home to an unexpected gift. Before I even opened the door, the delicious aroma hit me—I thought it might be from a neighbor’s apartment, but no, it was coming from inside. I walked in to discover my partner had prepared homemade beef stew and freshly baked bread from scratch. After a day filled with stress, this warm, comforting meal was exactly what I needed. Nothing beats hot beef stew and fresh-baked bread on a cold, rainy fall evening. It was a beautiful reminder of how much thoughtfulness and love can lift a person up. See the picture of it above.

#222: Canceled Meetings

Have you ever felt that creeping dread as a meeting approaches? You keep checking the clock—an hour turns to 45 minutes, then 30… Finally, you accept your fate and prepare yourself. But then, you hear that familiar “Bing” from your inbox: “I apologize for the late notice, but I won’t be able to make it…” And just like that, you’re doing an internal dance of relief and thanking the universe. You graciously reply, “No problem at all, we can reschedule…”—but what you really want to say is, “Thank you for saving us all!”

#223: My Portable Tea Mug

This week, my portable tea mug has been my best friend. On busy mornings when I barely have time to grab breakfast, it’s there, keeping my tea warm and helping me feel just a little more grounded as I head to work. You’ve kept me caffeinated and motivated, dear tea mug, and I’m so grateful for the comfort you bring.

#224: A Good Excuse to Eat Candy

Halloween was on Thursday, and I was more than happy to have a “real” excuse to indulge in my favorite treats. The weather was in the mid-70s—ideal for sharing candy with students at work and getting a few treats for myself. KitKats, Skittles, and Snickers found their way to me, guilt-free. It’s not every day you get to enjoy a mini-candy-fest without a second thought!

Sunset Views After Work

With the days getting shorter, I now get to leave work just before sunset. There’s something magical about stepping outside and being greeted by the rich oranges and deep pinks of the setting sun, especially as they cast their glow on the autumn leaves. Mother Nature, you’re an artist, and you make my commute infinitely more beautiful. Thank you for painting the sky each evening and reminding me to pause and marvel at your beauty. Here is one pic I took this week.

Weekly Spotlight

This week’s spotlight is a quote on gratitude:

“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” – Melody Beattie

What are you grateful for this week?

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November 10, 2024

I wanted to start by acknowledging that we had an elections this week in the USA but I will not be making any comments about that on this post

This week I am grateful for…

226. An All-Day Silent Mindfulness Retreat

227. Words of Wisdom

228. A Moment of Courage

229. A Cozy Moment on a Chilly Day

230. Lemon Mango Tea


#226: An All-Day Silent Mindfulness Retreat

As part of my 8-week Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) course this fall, I participated in an All-Day Silent Retreat hosted in-person at Brown University. Walking into the retreat space, I was delighted to find over 25 other participants who also chose to be there in-person. The experience was truly meaningful, enriched by inspirational talks from knowledgeable teachers (who were the only ones allowed to talk) and an atmosphere brimming with mindful insights. Many of us were surprised at how quickly the eight hours flew by, a testament to how absorbing and transformative the day was.

During a brief outdoor walking meditation, we were fortunate to enjoy the warmth of a 65-degree day. The fresh air and a serene riverside path, with views of Providence’s skyline, provided a beautiful setting that deepened the experience. See a photo that I took above. I walked away from the retreat with profound gratitude—for the opportunity to connect, for the insightful teachers, and for the quiet, shared presence of everyone there.

#227: Words of Wisdom

One of the teachers shared a powerful reflection on how emotions like anger and frustration can take hold of us. According to research, intense emotions like these biologically last only around 90 seconds. After that, it’s up to us; what lingers is often fueled by our thoughts and responses. The teacher pointed out how easily a situation can escalate when we react impulsively. For instance, when someone says something hurtful, if we react in anger, it can strain the relationship far longer than those initial seconds of emotion.

Imagine that same scenario approached mindfully: noticing the anger in real-time, allowing it to pass, and then, when calm, addressing the situation constructively. While easier said than done, this approach has the potential to transform how we relate to others—and to ourselves.

#228: A Moment of Courage

That day, I had a small yet powerful moment of courage during a loving-kindness meditation. This practice involves sending love and kindness to others, including dear friends, oneself, a neutral person, a challenging person, and even the whole planet. We silently repeated phrases like, “May you be safe, may you be healthy, may you be at ease, may you feel loved.”

The instructor encouraged us to send these thoughts to someone close to us, even if they were no longer with us in a physical sense. For the first time, I chose to visualize a family member I lost two and a half years ago. It took courage, but I allowed myself to feel the sadness without resisting it, sitting with the emotion fully from start to finish. It was a bittersweet but deeply healing experience for which I am profoundly grateful.

#229: A Cozy Moment on a Chilly Day

The days are getting shorter, with the sun now setting around 4:30 p.m., and each week seems to draw us closer to the depths of winter. While the early darkness can feel a little gloomy, I’m finding myself savoring cozy moments more. This week, I felt particularly grateful for the simple joy of snuggling under a warm blanket on a cold day—one of life’s small comforts that brings an instant feeling of peace and warmth.

#230: Lemon Mango Tea

Earlier this year, during a trip to Pittsburgh, I picked up two types of decaf tea, one of which was a delightful lemon mango blend. This week, that tea has been my go-to comfort on brisk evenings. Its citrusy aroma fills the room, and each sip brings a small moment of joy and warmth. In moments like these, I’m reminded of the power of small rituals to bring a sense of calm and contentment.

Weekly Spotlight

This week spotlight is a Poem by Safire Rose:

She let go.

She let go. Without a thought or a word, she let go.

She let go of the fear.

She let go of the judgments.

She let go of the confluence of opinions swarming around her head.

She let go of the committee of indecision within her.

She let go of all the ‘right’ reasons.

Wholly and completely, without hesitation or worry, she just let go.

She didn’t ask anyone for advice.

She didn’t read a book on how to let go.

She didn’t search the scriptures.

She just let go.

She let go of all of the memories that held her back.

She let go of all of the anxiety that kept her from moving forward.

She let go of the planning and all of the calculations about how to do it just right.

She didn’t promise to let go.

She didn’t journal about it.

She didn’t write the projected date in her Day-Timer.

She made no public announcement and put no ad in the paper.

She didn’t check the weather report or read her daily horoscope.

She just let go.

She didn’t analyze whether she should let go.

She didn’t call her friends to discuss the matter.

She didn’t do a five-step Spiritual Mind Treatment.

She didn’t call the prayer line.

She didn’t utter one word.

She just let go.

No one was around when it happened.

There was no applause or congratulations.

No one thanked her or praised her.

No one noticed a thing.

Like a leaf falling from a tree, she just let go.

There was no effort.

There was no struggle.

It wasn’t good and it wasn’t bad.

It was what it was, and it is just that.

In the space of letting go, she let it all be.

A small smile came over her face.

A light breeze blew through her.

And the sun and the moon shone forevermore…

Safire Rose